“How Come You Guys Don’t Ask for Gender??”

| by Veronica Bree
Why we don't ask for gender

Hey guys !

Andreas, here. Hope you’re enjoying chatting away. I just wanted to touch base with you because we’ve been getting some questions lately.

The number one question people have been asking is why we don’t ask your gender when you start chatting. After all, most Strangers start off the chat with A/S/L ?

Reason #1: Experience the Thrill of Chatting with a Complete Stranger

We figure that the thrill of chatting on the site really starts out with not knowing who you’re going to get. If we let you choose to talk with males or females from the get go, maybe the service wouldn’t be the same. You could miss out an opportunity to chat with someone really great.

Reason #2: Try (New Friends) Before You Buy

Just think, at one point . Strangers are just people you haven’t gotten to know yet. The first step in getting to know someone is just meeting them.

We think Stranger Meetup is a fun way to meet new people and make new friends, because you can connect with who they are on the inside.

It’s a lot easier to get to know new people when you don’t have any preconceived notions about who they are because of their gender, age, or appearance.

Our blogger Veronica met her best friend that way. True story.

Reason #3: Challenge Yourself to be More Interesting

Asking someone’s gender is a boring icebreaker conversation, don’t you think? Even if it’s all you care about, it doesn’t make you seem very interesting. And if you don’t seem interesting, nobody is going to want to talk to you.

Try some of these other questions instead. They’re great conversation starters.

  • What’s your favorite food?
  • What’s your take on the Snuggie?
  • Do you like to go swimming?
  • When was the last time you had a really good laugh?

I bet you can think of other fun things like that to get a conversation going with another Stranger.

Photo: Creative commons licensed by Tamaki Sono.