When one of my girlfriends tells me she\u2019s met someone new, my first question is always:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Does he give good email?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
I say \u201cgood email\u201d but really this applies to all situations where you are communicating only in writing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Let\u2019s face it, if you are trying to flirt by text or email you only have your words to get their attention! So listen up: here are 4 ways to be an awesome online chatter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You don\u2019t even have to be perfect at spelling or grammar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tip #1: Assume the Best<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
So you\u2019re feeling a little flirtatious. Maybe a little bored. You\u2019re looking for a little adventure. You click that \u201cChat with a Stranger\u201d button and meet another Stranger in a completely private chat room.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
What next? Strangers, assume the best.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
- Assume that you are getting paired with someone you want to talk to.<\/li>
- And on the flip side, assume YOU are someone this stranger wants to talk to!<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n
Because you\u2019re looking for attractive banter, it\u2019s tempting to write \u201cA\/S\/L\u201d right out of the gate. Why waste your time?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That\u2019s exactly the problem. You\u2019ve just told this Stranger you think they might be a waste of your time.<\/strong> Not exactly a great first impression!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It\u2019s also a really unattractive way to let someone know you\u2019re in the mood.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
That doesn\u2019t mean you can\u2019t be clear about what you\u2019re looking for. You can be upfront. It\u2019s all in your delivery. Keep reading.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tip #2: Make that First Sentence Count<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Whether you start chatting, or they do, that first sentence can make or break you. You never get a second chance to make a first impression! Or, you might…but with x number of people on StrangerMeetup.com at any given time…the odds are against you and probably neither of you will know it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Show them what they\u2019re getting when they talk to you.<\/strong> This is where you can be clear, too, about what you\u2019re looking for.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Instead of, \u201cA\/S\/L?\u201d you can say:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
- Hey there Stranger, I\u2019m feeling frisky and I hope you\u2019re a tall handsome man interested in women who look like Mila Kunis.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n
Sound corny? Hey, put it in your own words. But include these ingredients:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
- A greeting.<\/strong> Say hello. Be friendly and welcoming.<\/li>
- Give a little insight<\/strong> into what you want to chat about. Maybe a hug isn\u2019t on your mind at all! Then, perhaps try \u201cI\u2019m taking a break from writing a boring paper for school\u201d or \u201cI can\u2019t figure out what to make for dinner and that\u2019s where you come in.\u201d Being funny* is always good.<\/li>
- Tackle the gender question.<\/strong> Man, woman, transgender – whoever you are and whoever you\u2019re looking for – go for it!<\/li>
- Don\u2019t be crude.<\/strong> Notice how I kept the language playful and suggestive. It\u2019s called flirtation because you\u2019re dancing around the subject. If your chat partner is up for it, get down to the brass tacks of the down and dirty. Never get crude until your chat partner indicates its what she wants.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n
If your chat partner responds well, it\u2019s time for the actual chatting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tip #3: Details are appealing. Get Descriptive<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Your words are your foreplay here, Strangers. IRL you\u2019d have your eyes and hands to do the talking. But you\u2019re not IRL. You\u2019re in a chatroom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Your words need to do the talking – and touching, and looking…you get the idea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Here are some ideas for how<\/em> to say it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n